Wellness

5 ways to… spice up your sex life

If lockdown has knocked your libido for six, here are some ideas for getting the spark back
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1. Try a new (yoga) position

Feeling stressed, lethargic or disconnected? We hear you. Couples yoga is a great way to help you reconnect and unwind together – and it’s a win-win, seeing as yoga enhances female sexual satisfaction too. Try these couple yoga poses to challenge you and bring the focus onto each other’s bodies. If your partner needs a little persuasion, remind them that the key is to just have fun with it! And did you know that naked yoga is also a thing? Just sayin’…

2. Make time to play

If you usually only use a buzz for solo sessions, why not take things up a notch with a toy that benefits both of you? Try the remote-controlled, c-shaped LELO 8 Function Couples Massager, TIANI 3. It’s equal parts teasing and pleasuring and gives both of you an intense vibe during intercourse.

3. Get to know your sexual self

The genius app Ferly is a great place to start. It has tons of sensual stories to get you in the mood, questionnaires to help you discover what really makes you tick and champions pleasurable, healthy sex for everyone. For an empowering read, check out What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide To Sex And Safety. It has journal-style exercises to help define your sexual identity and navigate the often confusing, negative messages about female sexuality in society. It’s been a long time coming!

4. Master the art of a sensual message

Don’t worry if you’re not a pro masseuse – the act of taking it slowly and physical touch goes a long way. If you’re not sure where to begin, check out these 5 simple steps to massage your partner, which include beginner-friendly techniques that concentrate on different areas of the body. All that’s left is to dim the lights, play some relaxing music and light a candle such as This Works Love Sleep Seduction Candle*. Body warmth + a dreamy massage oil (My Viv Bergamot Massage Oil smells incredible) = many happy endings.

5. Be honest about what you want

There’s a reason they say communication saves relationships – and that applies to your sex life, too. Remember: no one is a mind reader, so it’s time to be vocal about that position, feeling, room, time or fantasy. If you need advice on how to ask for what you want, we suggest this clever 5-minute exercise. And take a look at these top communication tips for outside of the bedroom. Don’t ask, don’t get!

*Never leave a burning candle unattended and keep it out of the reach of children and pets.